There was a time when everything looked good on the outside.

My West Village job was glamorous, my East Village duplex apartment was beautiful, and my NYC girl pictures looked great on Facebook.

But I had gone through the ringer emotionally, I was uprooted, and when no one was looking, I was dragging my every step.

I met cool people at parties, and I was hoping their interest in me would ease my struggles. When we got in bed, I wasn’t feeling much of anything, they wouldn’t treat me great either, and I would be left feeling more stunned. That didn’t go well, and I decided to retreat to my room and protect myself for a while.

I realized I had been looking for intimacy everywhere but within.

This clicked:
“Be the love you want to see in the world.”
“Pleasure is first and foremost for yourself; lucky are the ones you invite in.”

So, I chose to turn inwards.
I stopped chasing.
I gave myself all the love and care I was capable of, so I wouldn’t be seeking it externally.
I stayed with my body through the numbness.
I gave myself the kind of presence I’d been longing for.
I became the one who asked myself the questions I wished someone else would ask.
I studied Tantra, and the art of subtlety.
I understood Truth as a compass to orgasm.
I explored my body and discovered my expanded sexual response {ESR}
I became my own Love Doctor.

And from that place, life began to shift.

I attracted people who didn’t just desire me; they cherished me.
Not because I tried harder, but because I stopped abandoning myself.
Pleasure ceased to be something I needed… and became something I was the source of.

Now I’m the person who shares about pleasure abundantly, and it’s been years of feeling so deeply satisfied that I’ve made it my life’s work to share these keys with others.

Pleasure compounds.

You can flip the script.